(onlinedatingmagazine.com - April 20, 2004) Singles connect at everyday places by starting positive conversations, says Jill Spiegel, who describes herself as a Flirtologist.
Landing dates happens while waiting in line, getting a haircut, volunteering, or visiting a dog park, says Spiegel, who conducts flirting seminars and is author of the newly released The Flirtologist's Guide To Dating.
"There are 100 million singles in the U.S., and yet singles say it's hard to find dates. Our lifestyle can be a natural dating service when we stay alert to the people around us and connect through common topics," says Spiegel. "There is a myth that meeting singles and flirting is about being clever or witty. The truth is the top three qualities people look for in a first impression are warmth, genuineness and empathy, so think friendly when it comes to flirting."
When initiating conversations, Spiegel recommends saying something positive even if it's about the weather. Or pay a sincere compliment. Or ask a question -- people love to give their opinion. She also suggests you can be gentle and direct by admitting to someone you are nervous. That breaks the ice. Tell them you would regret not saying something.
Book Review
Many of Spiegel's pointers may seem like common sense to people who already date confidently. But for others, who don't know how to be themselves when the world puts pressure on us, having things laid out in a few simple steps takes some edge off meeting and greeting. And it's also nice to know we're not the only ones who need a little help sometimes.
This book appears to be a transcript of Spiegel's dating seminars. It has the breezy, cheerful tone of a motivational speech. Sometimes it's too rich on exclamation marks!
This book appears to be a transcript of Spiegel's dating seminars. It has the breezy, cheerful tone of a motivational speech. Sometimes it's too rich on exclamation marks!
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